We Were Never Meant to Fix the World. We Were Meant to Break It.
- Amber Howard
- May 5
- 7 min read
We talk a lot about fixing the world.
We say it with good hearts, because we can feel the ache of things. The loneliness. The violence. The disconnection. The exhaustion. The widening gap between what is called success and what actually feels like aliveness.
So we ask:
How do we fix education?
How do we fix healthcare?
How do we fix politics?
How do we fix work?
How do we fix our families, our communities, our bodies, our minds, our planet?
It is a noble question.
But lately I have been wondering if it is the wrong one.
Because what if the world we are trying so desperately to fix is not broken in the way we think it is?
What if much of it is working exactly as it was designed to work?
What if a world built on domination will continue to dominate, no matter how many compassionate policies we layer on top of it?
What if a world built on extraction will continue to extract, no matter how many wellness programs we introduce?
What if a world built on separation will continue to separate us from one another, from the land, from our bodies, from our children, from our elders, and from our own inner knowing?
What if we were never meant to fix the world?
What if we were meant to break it?
Not break life.
Not break each other.
Not break what is sacred, tender, ancient, or true.
But break the world as it has been arranged.
Break the agreements that taught us domination was normal.
Break the spell that said exhaustion is virtue.
Break the lie that worth must be earned.
Break the inheritance that taught us to call obedience peace.
Break the pattern that taught us to mistake survival for success.
Break the frame so something living can come through.
Because maybe some things are not asking to be repaired.
Maybe some things are asking to be ended.
There is a particular kind of exhaustion that comes from trying to repair systems that were never built for life. You can feel it in organizations where good people pour their hearts into improving processes while the deeper culture still rewards urgency, hierarchy, and control. You can feel it in schools where teachers are asked to nurture children while also forcing them through systems of measurement that flatten their wonder. You can feel it in our own lives when we keep trying to become more productive, more disciplined, more healed, more impressive, instead of asking who taught us we were not already enough.
Repair has its place.
There are relationships worth tending.
There are institutions worth improving.
There are harms that require restoration, accountability, and care.
But repair becomes a trap when we are trying to make an unlivable structure more comfortable instead of asking why we are living inside it at all.
Sometimes the most loving thing is not to patch the wall.
Sometimes the most loving thing is to notice it was a cage.
When I say break the world, I do not mean rage without responsibility. I do not mean violence, cruelty, or collapse for the sake of collapse.
I mean sacred interruption.
I mean the kind of breaking that happens when a seed presses against stone from underneath. Quiet. Hidden. Almost invisible. Until one day the surface can no longer pretend nothing is happening.
I mean the kind of breaking that happens when a child asks a question no adult can honestly answer.
I mean the kind of breaking that happens when someone in a family finally tells the truth.
I mean the kind of breaking that happens when a person stops performing a life that looks good and begins living one that feels true.
This kind of breaking is not the opposite of creation.
It is the beginning of it.
The shell must break for the seed to become the tree.
The old skin must split for the snake to keep growing.
The waters must break for birth to begin.
The dawn must break before the day can arrive.
Nature has never been afraid of sacred rupture.
It is only the world of control that has taught us to fear anything that cannot be managed.
And part of why this is so difficult is because “the world” does not only live outside us.
It lives inside us.
It lives in what we believe is possible.
It lives in what we call realistic.
It lives in what we tolerate.
It lives in what we explain away.
It lives in the voice that says, That is just how things are.
It lives in the shame we feel when we rest.
It lives in the guilt we feel when we disappoint people.
It lives in the fear that if we do not keep proving ourselves, we will disappear.
This is why breaking the world is not only political.
It is spiritual.
It is emotional.
It is relational.
It is embodied.
Because the outer world is held together by inner agreements.
And when those agreements begin to dissolve, the world as we knew it begins to lose its power.
This is what I mean by breaking the spell.
Not pretending the material world does not matter. It does. Food matters. Shelter matters. Safety matters. Money matters. Policy matters. Land matters. Justice matters.
But beneath every system is a story.
And beneath every story is a spell.
A repeated enchantment that teaches people what to see, what to ignore, what to value, what to fear, what to obey, and what to call impossible.
The Created Life, then, is not just a personal philosophy.
It is a form of refusal.
To create a life of your own design is to interrupt inheritance. It is to refuse the yardsticks handed to you without consent. It is to ask:
Who taught me this was success?
Who benefits from my exhaustion?
What parts of me had to go quiet so I could belong here?
What am I calling responsibility that is actually fear?
What am I maintaining that is no longer alive?
What world am I recreating through my daily choices?
And what would I have to break in order to return to life?
Sometimes what needs breaking is an old identity.
Sometimes it is a family role.
Sometimes it is a definition of goodness.
Sometimes it is the belief that love requires self-abandonment.
Sometimes it is the story that we must earn rest, joy, pleasure, dignity, beauty, belonging, or enoughness.
These are not small breaks.
They can shake the whole architecture of a life.
But this is how worlds end.
Not always with revolution in the streets.
Sometimes with one human being quietly saying:
No. I will not pass this on.
The breaking I am speaking of is not destruction.
It is remembering.
Remembering that we are not machines.
Remembering that children are not projects.
Remembering that bodies are not productivity tools.
Remembering that the Earth is not a warehouse.
Remembering that grief is not weakness.
Remembering that joy is not frivolous.
Remembering that love is not ownership.
Remembering that community is not a luxury.
Remembering that spirit was never separate from life.
We do not break the world by becoming harder.
We break it by becoming less available.
Less available to its hurry.
Less available to its numbness.
Less available to its false measures.
Less available to its demand that we trade our aliveness for approval.
Every time we choose truth over performance, something breaks.
Every time we choose relationship over image, something breaks.
Every time we choose enough over more, something breaks.
Every time we choose rest without apology, something breaks.
Every time we refuse to call domination leadership, something breaks.
Every time we refuse to call extraction success, something breaks.
Every time we refuse to call disconnection freedom, something breaks.
This is not passive.
This is disciplined, dangerous, holy work.
Because the world as it is does not fall apart only when people attack it.
It begins to fall apart when people stop believing in it.
And this is where we must be careful.
Breaking without remembering can become chaos.
Breaking without love can become cruelty.
Breaking without vision can become another cycle of domination wearing new clothing.
So no, we are not meant to break the world just to stand in the ruins.
We are meant to break what blocks life so life can move again.
We are meant to break the false so the true has room.
We are meant to break the spell so we can remember how to belong.
The question is not only, What are we against?
It is also:
What are we devoted to?
What are we protecting?
What are we growing?
What are we making possible for those who come after us?
What kind of human beings do we become in the breaking?
Because the new world cannot be built from the same consciousness that made the old one.
It cannot be built from hatred of humanity.
It cannot be built from contempt.
It cannot be built from the hunger to dominate those who once dominated us.
It has to be built from a deeper place.
A place of fierce tenderness.
A place of right relationship.
A place that remembers freedom is not the absence of responsibility, but the return of sacred responsibility to life.
Maybe we are not here to fix the world.
Maybe we are here to tell the truth about it.
To see where it is not broken, but obedient to a design we can no longer serve.
To stop pouring our life force into polishing cages.
To stop mistaking adaptation for liberation.
To stop asking how to succeed in systems that require our forgetting.
Maybe we are here to break the spell.
To break the trance.
To break the silence.
To break the inherited agreements that keep us small, separate, afraid, and useful.
And maybe, if we are brave enough, we will discover that what breaks is not the world itself.
What breaks is the illusion.
The illusion that this is the only way.
The illusion that we are powerless.
The illusion that we are separate.
The illusion that we must become worthy of life before we are allowed to fully live.
Maybe that is the world waiting beneath this one.
Not somewhere far away.
Not after some grand heroic moment.
But here.
In the breaking.
In the remembering.
In the sacred refusal to keep repairing what was never meant to hold us.
So perhaps the question is no longer:
How do we fix the world?
Perhaps the question is:
What world are we finally willing to stop serving?
And beneath that:
What world are we brave enough to let be born?
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