Right Relationship & Letting Go: A Practice of Returning

There is a sacred balance in this life.

To live in right relationship with ourselves, others, and kin — we must become masters of letting go.

Not once.

Not in one grand moment of surrender.

But again and again.

A thousand quiet releases — of what no longer fits, what was never ours to carry, what cannot come where we are going.

Right relationship is not a state we arrive at.

It is a living, breathing practice.

A way of being in motion.

And letting go is the gate we pass through, each time we grow.

Right Relationship with Self

It begins here.

With our own reflection —

Stripped of performance, stripped of proving, stripped of roles we’ve outgrown.

But more than that —

Stripped of the beliefs that were spoken over us like truths:

“You’re too much.”

“You’ll never be enough.”

“Be strong, be quiet, be pleasing.”

We inherit more than genes.

We inherit thought patterns.

Defenses dressed up as personalities.

Righteousness mistaken for identity.

Living in right relationship with self means daring to question:

Whose voice is this?

Who benefits from me holding onto this belief?

What if I no longer need to be right — just free?

We cannot be in integrity with our deepest longings while clinging to outdated truths.

We must learn to thank them — the beliefs that once protected us, the judgments that once kept us company —

and let them go.

To live in right relationship with self is to allow new truths to find us.

Right Relationship with Others

This one can be tender.

Because so often, we try to love others through endurance.

We stay in relationships that ask us to abandon ourselves,

we water friendships that don’t return the pouring,

we hold onto connections long past their blooming.

But we also cling to being right —

about how they hurt us,

about who was wrong,

about how the story ended.

Sometimes what poisons love is not the event,

but the narrative we refuse to rewrite.

Letting go here doesn’t mean forgetting.

It means loosening the grip of righteousness.

It means making space for complexity, for nuance, for the possibility that we are all doing our best with the stories we’ve been given.

Right relationship with others begins when we stop needing to win.

And start seeking to understand — and be free.

Right Relationship with Kin

Kin is not only blood.

It is chosen.

It is soul-deep.

It is the ones we build villages with.

But even among kin, we carry beliefs:

“This is just how it is.”

“Family means sacrifice.”

“This is my role, and I can’t step out of it.”

We become characters in a script written before we were born.

And sometimes, living in right relationship with kin means putting down the script.

Refusing to reenact the old dramas.

Letting go of the need to be the fixer, the strong one, the one who never asks for anything.

It means refusing to call dysfunction love.

It means grieving what never was — and blessing what still could be.

Letting go here is an act of courage and care.

A reclamation of self.

A quiet reweaving of what kinship can become.

Right Relationship with Belief

This is the root system.

Quiet. Invisible. Powerful.

To live a created life,

we must unhook from the truths we’ve outgrown.

Even when they’ve served us.

Even when they’ve been with us for decades.

Because some beliefs are cages disguised as clarity.

That we must earn our worth.

That healing follows a linear path.

That being spiritual means being calm.

That safety lies in control.

That letting go is failure.

We let go not because our old truths were wrong —

but because they are no longer alive.

No longer evolving.

And we are.

Letting go of belief is an act of profound trust.

Trust that something deeper than certainty is holding us.

Trust that truth is not a destination, but a dance.

Trust that who we are becoming knows more than who we’ve been.

Letting Go as Returning

We don’t let go to disappear.

We let go to return.

To ourselves.

To the sacred now.

To relationships built on truth, not obligation.

To kinship rooted in reciprocity, not role-playing.

To beliefs that grow with us, not against us.

Right relationship is not built on clinging.

It is built on trust.

And trust, sometimes means opening our hands.

Even when they are full of stories.

Even when our hearts ache.

This is the path of the created life.

Not a life without loss —

but a life where even our letting go becomes a prayer of devotion.

A signal to the universe that we are ready —

for the next becoming.